this is the brain we’re raising…taylor talks

First of all, let me just THANK YOU for all the comments and emails you sent regarding yesterdays post.
I love it when I spill my heart, and there you all are….spilling yours too.
Community does take time….and we are getting there slowly and surely.
Thank you for helping us get there.

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On another note, I’ve been wanting to share this text message Jimmy sent me about a conversation he had with Taylor a few weeks ago after Jiu Jitsu.  
It’s actually taken me that long to wrap my head around the fact that THIS is the brain God has trusted us to raise.
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{written out just as it was sent.}

“Taylor is sharp, so smart that it is shocking.  He started talking about how he doubts God is real again.  
I said, ‘Well, then how does it make sense that everything exists?’
And without hesitating he said, ‘Well think about this dad, the universe was always here.”
And I said, ‘But that doesn’t make sense, someone had to create it.’
And again without hesitating he said, ‘Well then it doesn’t make sense to say God was always here either, if you say God was always here, then I say the universe was just always here and there isn’t a God.  It’s the same thing.'”
next text….
“We kept talking about this and I asked him what it was in particular that made him doubt, and he said, ‘Because I don’t see God.’
And I said, ‘You don’t see the wind.’
And again without hesitating he said, ‘Ya, but you see what the wind does.’
And I said, ‘Exactly, just like God, you see what He does.’
Then he smiled, he liked that.
Isn’t that amazing how smart he is at 6?”
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I know, right?!?
Now that I think about it, I think God has entrusted more so JIMMY to raise his brain, because the Lord knows if that had come up with me, it would have gone a little more like this….
“Honey…that’s sweet.  But, just have FAITH and BELIEVE.  Now do you want to watch Friends and Hero’s of the Bible and learn more about David and Goliath?”
And apparently that wouldn’t have solved anything for him.
I guess what works for me doesn’t work for everyone.
But, I am so thankful that Taylor is asking those questions now...
and especially that he’s asking Jimmy, who apparently had those same questions at the age of 6. 
And somehow my incredible husband just knows how to make sense of it all.
He is able to do the same with me.
Because sometimes having FAITH and BELIEVING needs a little more to back it up.
As I am learning that lesson right along with Taylor.

I may have always grown up a “christian” but I certainly never dared to question it all.
And for so long, I didn’t know WHY I believed it….
I just….did.
I inherited it from my parents….which wasn’t enough to get me through.

And that’s why I love that Taylor questions it.
Because I am confident he will find his OWN faith much sooner than I did.
And he won’t believe simply because it’s just what his mom and dad told him to…
It’ll be because God has made it known to him in a way he could understand at the time he needed to make it his own.
And now even more so, each one of us is growing and learning, because of HIM.
You guys, THAT is the brain we are raising.
And he’s only 6.
We still have many many years ahead of us, and many more tough questions to come.
Hold me now.
Because Jimmy has a long road ahead of him, while I’m busy praying us through.
© 2011 “Le Musings of Moi”
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just call us the duggars

I have a confession to make.
I love and adore 19 kids and counting, and the Duggars are my hero’s.

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In fact, I make encourage my kids and husband to watch the show with me as well.
I’ve also read both books.
Both times in about two days.
Sometimes?
I take notes.
WAIT!  Don’t go!!!
It’s not like I’m about to start wearing long skirts and….
although….
maxi skirts ARE kind of all the rage now.
Hmmmm…..
It’s just that HAVE YOU SEEN THEIR CHILDREN???
They behave.
They nap until they’re 5.
They are kind and helpful and they do chores and they play with EACH OTHER.
And the parents???
They don’t yell.
Ever.
And they parent with intention.
And they are just so sweet and innocent and positive and calm (ish).
And I’m pretty sure there is no medication involved in that, although I can’t be sure.
While I’m not sure I can homeschool or allow God to determine the number of kids I should have… (actually i think dear Jesus made things clear when having children gave me anxiety.  can’t get much more clear than that, i would say.  thankyouverymuch.}…..
But, I do think there is a lot to be taken from the way they run their house.
For instance….
We’ve since started meeting at night before bed to have a quick time of family prayer and devotions.
{okay, so maybe 2 nights a week, but it’s SOMETHING!}
Sometimes it’s the first time all day we’ve sat down together, and even though the kids aren’t used to being STILL and QUIET (the way the Duggar kids are), in time I’m sure they’ll learn to love it.
Even if I have to give them melatonin an hour before.
Kidding.
I would never drug my children.
{unless it was legal and prescribed.}
My new motto?
WWTDD
What would the Duggars do?
I stop.  And ponder, WWTDD.  And then I procede.
My dream?
To take my kids for a weekend and live with the Duggars. 
I want to see it all happen up close and personal. 
I want my kids to soak in the wisdom and love they have in that house.
And then I want to leave my kids for another week or two while Jimmy and I come home to practice all that being still and quiet.

What do you guys think?
Have you seen 19 (20, 30) kids and counting?
Do you think I have what it takes?

Okay, don’t answer that last question.

© 2011 “Le Musings of Moi”
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family fun brings us to tears, well some of us

Excuse my high pitched voice.
I tend to get a tad high sounding when I’m super “excited.”
And especially when I’m having FUN!

Just another day in the life.
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my must have beauty products and more!

Just a few videos from last week on the SheKnows.com Mommalogues!
The great thing about beauty products is that they do exactly what they say.  Make you beautiful. And?  They don’t whine.  Or talk back.  Or refuse to go to the bathroom at school causing parent/teach conferences twice a week. So, needless to say, I adore beauty products.  And because I am constantly trying out new stuff, I have found a few amazing products that have been tried and tested and have most definitely made the must have list.  Check out the ones I die for.  Then go buy them.  For me.

 

 

 

 

 

There are two things about Thanksgiving that make it nearly impossible for me to be too opinionated here.  The first is, beggars can’t be choosers and since I don’t cook, I can’t really say what my preparer should do.  The second is, I don’t like Thanksgiving food.  I am a very picky eater (peanut butter & jelly, plain cheeseburgers,  and cheese pizza please), so healthy or not….I’m not too thrilled about the options Thanksgiving brings.  But, because I do attend Thanksgiving and someone is usually cooking it for me, here’s how I try to make it work.

 

 

 

 

 

Isn’t it all amazing?  How can you even ask me to narrow it down to just one?!?  Okay, but really…with my kids, it’s not about an age or stage….but more about what is less annoying of the most annoying.  Or the less crazy making of all the crazy making.  Those are the kind of moments that I hold on to and cherish.  But through it all, I love them regardless.  No really, I do.  What?!?

 

 

 

 

 

And the others you may have missed…

Remember, every day (during the week) we have new topics, and don’t be afraid to join the discussion by leaving comments on the site!!!
Hope you guys had a great weekend…
{i am definitely on the mend….and will be back much sooner than expected!  thanks for the love and prayers.  they are absolutely working.}
© 2011 “Le Musings of Moi”
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an ad for prozac a.ka. birth control

I’ve been known to video tape my kids when they throw a tantrum.
Mostly because when things are calm again and they see the video, they realize just how silly it all was.
Until the next tantrum, when they seemingly have forgotten.
And every time I video tape them, I think…..now this could be birth control for anyone not quite ready to have kids.
Or… it could be an ad for Prozac.
{“do you feel like this every day?  then maybe you need prozac!”}
Either way….this was my day yesterday.
I wonder where she learned it from….
Ahhhh, the glamorous life of a stay at home mom.
© 2011 “Le Musings of Moi”
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homeschooling, bike helmets and girls night out….

Today my sweet friend, Mama Kat had an option to link up a vlog about your kids wearing helmets while on bikes….and I was all, oh my word!  What do you know?!?  I TOTALLY have a video to share all about that….
As well as one on Homeschooling….
and Girls Night Out….
Basically, all the latest from The Mommalogues!

Oh the topic of homeschooling.  Doesn’t it just sound so fun?  Being with your kids all day long????  Getting to teach them things and have them listen and adore and admire you because you are the one with the knowledge?!?  In all actuality, I am in the minority with a lot of my friends in what I think about that whole thing.  And while I may have my own thoughts, I definitely agree that we are each in a different place with different gifts, and that is the beauty of America.  You do what keeps you sane, and I’ll do what keeps me sane.  And we’ll all be happy together in the long run.  Now watch to see the look I gave my husband the day he suggested homeschooling….

 

 

 

 

 


I love my girls.  They are my lifeline and my heart and my laugher and my happy place.  And I’m not necessarily talking about the SkinnyGirl I hang out with in the bubble bath some nights.  Okay, that counts as girls night too….But, here’s what I really do with my girls, and why I need it so.

 

 

 

 

 

Taylor likes to push the boundaries.  Have you noticed?  (that’s a therapy talk for another day.)  And wearing his helmet is just one of the ways he likes to test the boundaries.  Thankfully, God made me just a little smarter than him, and I think I  may have found a way to scare him into submission.  Watch and learn.

 

 

 

 

 

And here’s the others from the week you may have missed:

But my FAVORITE one?
That one is coming up tomorrow (Friday).  It’s the one where I bring in Jimmy….and you can finally see why sometimes we’re referred to as, The Odd Couple.
Hi. Larious.
Be sure to check it out! 

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this week in the mommalogues

Here’s just a few of what you’ve missed if you haven’t been to SheKnows.com‘s Mommalogues this week:

How often do you go grocery shopping?
I can’t think of anything more fun and enjoyable than grocery shopping.  The aisles of food, the many brands and choices and prices…I mean, it’s beyond words ahhh.mazing.  And I really prefer to bring as many kids as possible when I go as well, because the more kids, the more fun.  And because I love it so, here’s just how often I prefer to go.

 

 

 

 

 

How sick do your kids have to be to stay home from school?
When we’re talking about how sick my kids have to be to stay home from school….I do have to say, it depends on which kid we’re talking about.  And it may not be the most popular answer, and I may not make friends now at my son’s school….but this is my safe place, and I’m coming out with the truth.  Don’t judge me.

 

 

 

 

 

What are your top 3 go to meals on busy nights?
When it comes to dinners, we have about as much creativity as a fly.  I like to blame it on my mom. (as I like to blame everything. Ha!)  When I was growing up, we ate things like cereal and pizza and Spaghetti O’s.  DE-lish.  But there was one special family recipe that she made and handed down to us girls, and it’s one of the 3 main meals I like to make each week.  Check it out.

 

 

 

 

 

….and that’s just three of the five from this week!  
And also?
The other women are amazing….so watch theirs as well while you’re there!
Next week I bring Jimmy into one of the videos….and um…can you say “the odd couple?” 
Ahhhh, but I love us. 
Have a great weekend loves!
© 2011 “Le Musings of Moi”
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what to do when you’re kids are fighting in the car

See?  This is why I vlog on The Mommalogues.  I kind of have some things figured out.
{and if you know me AT ALL, you know the above statement is absolutely not true.  except, I do vlog for The Mommalogues.}

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the best parenting technique ever?

Okay, you ready to write this down?
Take each and every toy, book, and item that could be fun away.
For months.
Genius right?
I know, I didn’t think so either as I watched my husband slowly and methodically remove every single item out of Taylors room and into our shed 3 weeks ago.
And every so often Jimmy would calmly continue to say, 
“Now Taylor, this is an amazing lesson to learn at 6.  You get to learn to be content and happy even when you have no toys or things.  It will be so good for you.  Most adults don’t even get to learn this!”
Now I was on board with the taking away of things…but for months?
{granted school was starting two days later so…I was a little more okay with it for that reason.  love you school!  xoxo}
Let me address the concern you must be having before you jump ship and go all CPS on me.
Things were getting bad,
It was a long rough summer, and by the end I was starting to look like a crazy lady with wild hair and wild eyes.
And I cried often.
I had just reached my limit with disrespect, ungratefulness, and the up and down moodiness that was coming out of my sweet little 6 year old.  
I missed my boy and I didn’t know what else to do to get him back.
We’d take him to the Science Center, and after a fun afternoon he would complain that he didn’t get to build blocks long enough.
{and pout and cry and writhe around like a fish out of water.}

We’d take him out to dinner and he’d complain that the chocolate milk wasn’t chocolaty enough.
{and pout and cry and writhe around like a fish out of water.}

We’d go to the beach, and he’d be unhappy that there weren’t enough crabs or shells to find.
{and pout and cry and writhe around like a fish out of water.}
You see the pattern?
It. was. exhausting.
But now?
With no toys???
MOST of the time, I have my happy boy back.
He now plays with his sister sweetly (because that’s the only way he gets to play with her stuff!).
He writes us love letters and folds them into paper airplanes for a special delivery.
He makes LOTS of paper airplanes.
He makes dinosaur shaped paper snowflakes.
dinoflakes
He thinks the metal toilet paper holder is a transformer and thinks it’s all kinds of awesome.
He reads.
He smiles and laughs.
And he is relaxed and content.
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And yet, not a single toy resides in his room….
which I’m starting to think has left more room in his heart for love, joy, and laughter.
He’ll get them back.
One day.
But, he doesn’t know when and we like it that way.
He’s on his way to being content without stuff, and it seems he’s actually happier that way.
We all are.
Maybe my husband knows a thing or two after all.
{last night we gave him back all his books, and he was SKIPPING around the house giddy with excitement for BOOKS!  It was a joyous moment all around.}
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the greatest lesson of all: blogher 2011

“I should have KNOWN this would be the WORST DAY EVER OF MY WHOLE LIFE!!!!”
-Taylor, age 6, overheard many times the first day I returned from a weekend away
Ahhh, there is just something about my presence that brings about abounding love and happiness in my children.  And I knew from the tantrums and non stop quotes such as above, that I was a well loved and missed mama.  
My first day back.
So I’m sure you can see why after spending 3 days away that I would come home to consider that MAYBE, just maybe, I might be a prospect for a part time job.
Or.
OR!
A FULL TIME JOB!!!
The thought first came to me when on NIGHT ONE of having the kids by himself, Jimmy spent a good 30 minutes on the phone with me telling me the secrets to handling and keeping your cool with kids.
He was on Day 1.
And he already had all the secrets.
“You just gotta stay calm.”
“You can’t take it all so personally.”
Did I mention he was on Day 1?
So I realized, he’s got it TOTALLY under control!!!
And since he’s got it, and I’m too social, the obvious solution would be that I shall need a part time job.
A part time job of being social.
With adults.
And where there are NO kids around.
There’s a job like that, right?
Yes, at BlogHer there was talk of LinkedIn (it’s not spam after all!), and knowing your brand (hope mines not walmart!), and I most definitely began to grasp the importance of social media…
 But my biggest lesson of BlogHer 2011?
Mama needs a job.
And that’s the stuff you just don’t get in a classroom.  
That is just real life, yo.
I hope you took notes.
© 2011 “Le Musings of Moi”
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