Archives for May 2012
…where you’re free to say, "me too!"
need humility? have kids.
And in public.
But, mostly his “shows” are just when he’s around me or his dad.
“Look! She does tricks! And she’s HAPPY! And this is all because of ME and my amazing parenting!!!”
Nearly every week I have had the pleasure of having a parent/teacher conference when I pick up my SWEET little beautiful and STUBBORN girl, Chloe.
{if you thought that sentence lasted forever, try standing in a public hallway watching your childs head spin.}
Because their humbling is happening, you just may not get the chance to see it in public like others get to see mine.
{it’s like they know i need blog material or something. my word.}
What has your kid done to embarass you lately?
Feeling humble?
sometimes loss teaches a lesson…
what nobody told me about my 20’s….
Recently, I did a guest post on my friend Juliana’s blog for her 20 something series.
In case you missed it, here’s the post for you to catch up on.
What No One Told Me About My 20’s, and if they had, I’m pretty sure I wouldn’t have listened….
I was one of those girls waaaaaay back in my teens and 20’s who could never be told anything.
I didn’t want or need advice because I had it ALL figured out.
I knew better.
I saw things more clearly.
I had life by the reigns and I was in control.
{oh how i wish i had that now in my 30’s, cause now i’ll take ANYONES help and advice!}
My first wake up call was about the age of 19.
I’d been a bit wild and reckless, both with guys and partying for a few years, you know…just going through the normal teenage rebellion type phase.
But one night at a party, when things started to get heated and emotional, I sat there watching it all unfold and all I could think was, “What has become of my life? Who are these people, and are they even my friends? Why am I even here being involved with stuff like this?”
I went home that New Years Eve night and wrote out all that I wanted to change in my life….and the next day I woke up and made a decision to walk away from that crowd and that way of life.
I got back involved with my church, and then a few months later decided to pack up and drive to California to start all over.
All by myself, not knowing a single person.
It sounded lovely and amazing.
Now in my mid 30’s, I think doing such a thing would send me into a panic attack.
But that’s the the thing about your 20’s.
You’re still kind of a child, but also starting to ease into adult life a little more.
For me at that age, it was about taking risks.
Being wild and free.
Loving hard, and feeling deeply.
It was all about having fun, really.
I just wanted to sleep, go dancing, hang out with my friends, meet hot boys, and have FUN!
I found an amazing church, incredible friends, and tried to find a balance between the world’s way of fun and my faith.
I was walking a thin line between the two, but I felt it was at least better then where I had been before.
It was all about me, all about fun.
But, when I lost my dad suddenly due to a fatal heart attack when I was 23, my whole life and perspective changed.
Life was not fun anymore….and I was confused, broken, lost and hurt.
Suddenly the guys I had been dating weren’t so fun and they definitely weren’t there for me when life really became real.
I realized I had been giving my heart to so many that weren’t worthy of having something so special.
And then I met Jimmy.
We had met briefly before my dad died, but it wasn’t until after that our friendship really grew into something deeper and more meaningful.
He was there for me, not asking for anything, not needing anything, not playing games, not being anything but loving and comforting and a real true friend.
Without intention, I found myself beginning to pull away from the guys I had been “dating” and found myself instead wanting to spend more and more time with Jimmy.
And within a few months, we found ourselves madly in love, ready to take it from friendship to engaged.
{yes. we moved fast. i wouldn’t recommend it really. for those of you in your 20’s….}
I share all of this to bring you to THE moment in my 20’s where I had one of my greatest wake up calls.
You see, Jimmy had been a “good” boy.
Never had he partied, and never had he been drunk.
But, the biggest thing was that he had saved himself for the woman he was going to marry.
And to me that meant everything.
It made me love and respect him even more.
It also made me dread having to tell him the full truth about my past….
because it most definitely wasn’t squeaky clean.
You see, my philosophy had always been to just have fun now and make better choices later when I was “grown up.”
I had only ever really thought about myself.
I hadn’t thought about the day that all that fun could potentially really hurt someone else.
But the day that Jimmy and I finally had the talk about my past, and I had to be truthful, it was one of the hardest moments of my life.
Seeing the hurt on his face, and the tears in eyes, literally broke my heart…
because all my fun and all my selfishness was now breaking his.
It took months….maybe even a year for us to heal and recover and without a whole lot of prayers and God’s healing touch, I’m not sure we would have made it.
But it was in THAT moment that I realized and knew….this life God had given me?
My choices were not just going to affect me….they had and would and would continue to affect everyone in my life that loved and cared for me.
It was THAT moment that was a life changer for me.
Every day from that point on I made every effort to fully give over my life to the Lord, and let go of all the selfish ways I’d been holding onto for “fun.”
I realized it all comes down to choices.
Unfortunately, sometimes it takes walking a very hard and painful road to learn the greatest lessons….
It has most definitely changed the course of my life.
I still have fun.
I still love to dance.
I still love to take risks (except with food, my hair, and moving)….but now?
I take a moment to pray and to think beyond me.
I lay it all down before the Lord….and I allow HIM to take the wheel.
And let me tell you.
It is so freeing.
So fun.
And nobody gets hurt that way.
And that, you guys, is the thing I wish I could tell everyone in their teens and 20’s.
{and MAKE them obey me!!!!}
Just think beyond yourself.
If you do this now, you’ll save yourself and so many others a world of hurt.
i have a daughter
peace in anxiety
or so I hoped.
so much time had passed, and I felt my strength begin to grow.
confidence and joy filled my heart.
i wondered if possibly it was over???
i enjoyed the silence.
i embraced each and every moment of my life.
i found my laughter.
i flashed my smile.
in His plan,
i’m less afraid.
i’m more accepting and forgiving.
and when i hear my children’s pure and happy sounds of laughter.
i see.
i suffer.
i love.
nothing good happens after 10 at night
For example.
Sometimes I even go into their rooms and whisper my insights and love just so they aren’t missing out.
Sure they’re asleep still, but I know somehow it gets in their hearts.
But it’s very specific time frame for me.
When I say night, I don’t mean when the sun goes down.
I don’t mean when the kids go down either.
{which some judgingly lovingly joke is basically the same time}
It’s at that time when suddenly I look at everything through rose colored glasses.
OR MAYBE….
It’s at that time that I am actually seeing things for how they truly are.
So, I have from basically around 10:15 until whenever I decide to go to bed to fully enjoy my day.
The problem with this, is that when I’m up and ready to be the Summer I was meant to be….the world is asleep.
I don’t care what kind of sale, chocolate, or amount of money you have for me.
I just CANNOT smile before 10.