The other day I was on the phone with my blogging mentor (whom I love and adore, mwah!)…and we were talking about, well, surprisingly….my blog.
When we got to the whole issue of comments, she could sense I was in utter distress.
Maybe because I said something to the effect of, “Comments!!! Oh, how they cause me distress!”
I know, it seems crazy….distress over comments, but ’tis true.
Maybe it’s because I’m middle child dramatic, but mostly it’s just because I’m simply kind of…dramatic.
It’s the way Jesus made me, okay???
And as we continued to talk and because she has some incredible gift, she was able to draw out from the depths of my soul exactly WHY I felt so saddened over the lack of commenting going on.
So, remember when just a few weeks back I wrote my whole blog mission statement because I really felt that God was leading me to have a PURPOSE in my writing here, instead of it just always being about me?
{that’s always a tough lesson for a middle child, by the way, learning it’s NOT all about me….sigh.}
In writing that I found my passion again for writing and for this blog, but mostly….I felt passion FOR YOU.
I don’t want this blog to be ALL ABOUT ME all the time.
I don’t want you here every day only because you want to see what I love and don’t love, or to hear about my issues, or learn about what I’m wearing.
{okay, yes, I want you here for those things….BUT! There’s MORE!!!!}
The other reason I want you here?
Is so that we can all have a place where we feel connected.
Where we feel a little less alone.
A little more normal (ish.)
A place where we can connect through all the things we have going on in our hearts, minds, and lives.
In all the ways girlfriends bond…THAT’S what I want this place to be.
I want us all to connect through sharing our stories.
I want us all to connect through makeup and fashion and home decor.
I want us all to connect through our struggles and triumphs.
And that, you guys, is why my little heart and soul yearns for the comment section to be used.
Not neccessarily to tell me how amazing I am….{of course, if you must, i can’t stop you….}
And not to pat me on the back for a post well written…. {again, though, if it must be said….}
It’s just how Jesus made me!!!
I’m a middle child!!
But honestly it’s not for any other reason then the desire for us all to simply connect.
This has been MY blog for years.
But now?
I want it to be OURS.
Because really, we are all in this together.
And that is the very long story as to why my heart hurts when the comment section goes unused.
And because I finally understood it myself, I of course had to share this all with you.
And so, if you’re in this with me….
You should be aware that I’ve done what I can to make commenting easier.
Let’s get to making each other feel normal, shall we?
You first.
© 2012 “Le Musings of Moi”
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I feel the same way about my blog & wanting it to be a community too! Us girls need each other for support!
Love you sweet cheeks.
Love you sweet cheeks 🙂
I am so glad you changed the way we can comment on your blog! I have tried to comment in the past, but was never able to until yesterday (my first comment). So now, you can bet I will be commenting.
I found your blog about a year ago when I started doing TA and was so inspired by your 30 day method. I also found a lot of other blogs at the same time, but yours is the only one I am still reading from way back then. I think that says a lot about your blog. It has so many dimensions and I like that you keep it real; the good and the bad. Go ahead and give yourself a pat on the back from me!
Katie!!!! I am so glad it finally works for you! And you have no idea how much it means to me that you are still here reading…..mwah!!!!
I absolutely love your blog. Although I’m not sure I’ve ever commented simply because some times with your life affirming statements (when I can see it in my own life) I’m speechless.
Hi Summer! I am new to your blog and first of all just have to say…I LOVE LOVE LOVE it! You are FABulous…and not just cause you love thirft stores, wear adorable, funky clothes & jewelry, crack me up and make me laugh out loud. Your writings touch my heart and warm my soul 🙂 Oh, and it is also an extremely tough lesson to find out its not all about ME all the time…and I am the “first child”, so duh! It really should be about me…lol…xoxo
Ok so commenting is not what it used to be. People read but don’t take the time to comment anymore b/c they are reading on phones, on the go, etc. Comments need to not be the focus… I had to learn this too.
My blog is dead lately. Makes me sad………
That’s a discouraging place. What’s the first thing you’d change if you knew it would work wonderfully??
Wahooooo! Love this Summer. What an invitation to hang out and enjoy each other. <3
As for me personally, when I find a new blog I like, I”ll leave a comment or two, maybe three, and if I don’t get a comment in return on my own blog I lose interest and stop commenting. THat’s just my .02 though…
Michelle….comments like this? Make me speechless!!! And that’s kind of hard to do. =) Thank you so much.
Jenna….first of THANK YOU. Second of all….being a first born, there is no lesson to learn….it IS ALL about you. =) xoxo
bring it back!!! it’s not too late!
Melissa, and that is exactly why I LOVE this new commenting platform, it makes it so easy for me to reply as well as for others!!!
In the past, I chose not to comment on most blog posts, because I read them in google reader. (I’m lazy.) I also thought by not taking the time to comment, I could read more blogs. I’ve cut down the number of blogs I follow and will try very hard to comment on posts that warrant it. I do want the blog writers to know people are out there enjoying their posts. Be warned…I am the queen of typos.
Janelle….you especially I wish were a commenter. You are just too sweet to not know is out there. =) xoxo
You know me, I love to comment. I try to do it everyday, but sometimes I don’t get to read blogs as much as I’d like (kid takes a shorter nap or wakes up abruptly and I have to leave the computer) I can completely relate to how you feel.
You know I adore you and I comment every time I read 🙂 I don’t get to read every single post but try to keep up with you because you’re simply one of my favs! xoxo
i totally understand that….my kids don’t NAP AT ALL ANYMORE….=(
Ditto right back at ya sista…..I am trying my hardest to do better on your blog as well. =) xoxo, love you like MASS.
I just recently found your blog… and it’s quickly becoming a fave! I love your heart, your honesty, your humor… and this post just solidified that 😉 Keep at it girl… community takes time, but it will come!
I love this. I’ve been blogging for a few years now and I’m always on and off… I feel like I’m lacking the connections so it made me feel really good to read this!
I try to comment when I visit various blogs – but it really depends on where I’m “at” that day (emotionally – and lately it’s been a roller coaster). I love coming here – whether I comment or not (and yes, I know, I need to get better about it – and not just here). I get exactly what you are saying – because that’s exactly how I feel about my blog – it’s all about connecting with other people – which is exactly why I wish people would connect an email to their comments (because that’s the way I respond!) but, sadly, a lot of them don’t seem to get it – no matter how many times I mention it.
Summer, I love you and your blog! Thanks for always being your genuine self!
Hi Summer! I love the blog and will try to comment often. loved the post today-you are a fantastic writer! I love the way you lay out the words-they emphasize the feeling. Its a visual treat:) I am sorry the babies do not nap any longer. My boy is 10 and I really do not miss the loooong afternoons-I am glad you blog. I wish I had-I would have been more sane. btw I loved the sweater you found thrifting in LA. How do you find the good thrift shops? I am giving a go to really trying to curb my shopping budget because I recently became a stay at home mom and I need to thrift more and hit up the mall less. Also did you like your blushington makeup? I would love to go there and do a makeup lesson.
Awe, Denise!!!! Yay, you just sorta made me swoon a little. And you’re right, community takes time, and since I’m a stay at home mom….I have all the time in the world. 😉 Anyway, good things come to those who wait….and I am most definitely learning patience. With my kids….um, that’s another story. Baby steps.
Gigi, you are my BEST commenter!!! Also, try looking into installing disqus into your comment…then you can respond through email but it goes to your blog as well. Its kind of amazing.
Ang….YOU are the amazing one. I STILL think about your blog post and it STILL moves me to tears. God made us this way, broken and beautiful each in our own ways….and I believe He intends for us to USE that and not be ashamed…. I am so broken, but I am the first to admit it, as well as try to laugh my way through. TRY being the operative word. xoxo
Okay, first of all, THANK YOU…for all your sweet words.
And yes, writing is my therapy….if I don’t write I will lose what little sanity I have left. It’s just another way for me to breathe…..
As for thrifting….(also like therapy!), I just go to any and all and I don’t discriminate. And then I spend TIME going up and down each and every aisle. Savoring the moments and all the random funky items that make me go hmmmmm……
Eventually you happen upon SOMETHING that has potential, and then it’s all worth it.
Look for Goodwills and Salvation Army’s and then call before and ask when and what their sales are…that way you’ll get an even better deal!!!
Blushington was awesome, and everyones makeup looked amazing. My eyes were awesome (i wanted dark, smoky and dramatic to match my personality). But, nevertheless, I still prefer to do my own makeup….
Thanks for writing 🙂 I Loved the advice about the sales. Your makeup is always flawless. I have been thinking about going red with hair color-do you still like your new blond?
Red would be fun! And yes, LOVE the blonde….but have some hair repair to do. sigh.
I want comments as much as the next blogger, but sometimes I fail at commenting myself. I’m always here reading even if I’m not saying anything. 🙂
aw shucks…. =)
And aw man….me too. I have been trying to be more diligent myself. Trying….baby steps.
“be the change you want to see…” or something like that, right?