you don’t even know me anymore

If you’ve been paying attention over the last few months, you may have realized that I’m on this new “life change” kick.
Only, it’s not a kick. It’s for reals, yo.
And the great thing is that Jimmy is totally on board. Being, you know, the great husband that he is and everything. Blah, blah, blah….I know.
So, we are making some changes. Tweaking a few things, and getting our lives, our kids, and our marriage back on track. And woah nellie, it feeeeeeels goooo-ooood.
I’m realizing that while we have a lot of goals, we need to tackle just a couple things at a time. Because otherwise, I think we’d be so overwhelmed that we might just quit. And we are not quitters. Nuh uh, no freaking way.
That post I wrote, this one here, I honestly think it was my most powerful and honest piece of writing to date…for myself anyway.
While it certainly didn’t get the comments and attention a lot of my posts do, it was still my absolute favorite.
And I will read it each week so that I am able to hold myself accountable to what I want to do from this point forward.
S0 here is just a summarized list of what has been put on my heart….
~First I am doing my best to make sure I am right in my relationship with God. I often complain that I don’t hear him, but perhaps that is because I am not drawing close enough often enough to recognize His voice.
~Then I am tackling my marriage. More time together. Devoted time. Set aside time.
Time AWAY.
~Then my kids. More patience. More time. More, more, and more laughter and smiles. Less complaining about it all. I said less complaining.
{To be clear.}
~Then our finances. Spend diligent time going over the budget and set limits.
We just decided to pull cash and when it’s gone, we’re done spending.
~Then our home. Put it in order, clear the clutter. Begin the To Do list.
~Then my “issues.” Let go of the stuff. The ideals. Stop waiting for better and just enjoy this moment. Moment by moment, choose joy and contentment.
~Then my blog. Go back to the reason I began it all. Not for the number of followers. Not for the stats.
Not for the comments…
(although please, I do love them. And I need them, so never ever stop.)
Not for any other reason than to write because I love/need to write (it’s my oxygen) and to share my heart because I never want anyone to feel alone in their stuff, the way I once did.
Oh, and maybe to once in awhile make you laugh.
And to make you happy with fashion. Fashion makes minds happy.
Other little things:
Bring music more into our family. Play our guitars more as a family.
Finally learn bar chords so I can play any song on my guitar that I want.
Have Family Night once a week.
So as the first year of being in my 30’s draws to a close, I guess I can say the year wasn’t in vain. I’ve learned something.
Now, I need to start putting it into practice.
What ‘choo working on, foo?
© 2009 “Le Musings of Moi”
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Comments

  1. This is ALL so amazing!!! These things you’re realizing and are putting into perspective. Congrats girlie ♥ Doesn’t it feel good to know that your life is getting on track??? I bet it does :)-
    Keep it up…you’re happiness is shining through your words. Luv it.

  2. Get it, girl!

    What day is your bday, lady?!

  3. amen sister!! its so easy to get side tracked in life, but you’re so fortunate you became aware of that before you went off the deep end… you know i just love you to pieces and think you are AMAZING! you are such a strong woman and i know if you say you will do these things, then YOU WILL do these things!! and don’t worry, i’ll be along for the ride keeping you motivated!! heart you lady love!

  4. lovely post Summer…
    wise, strong, determined…i love you more and more!
    on my way to read your other post.
    xxx

  5. this made me smile 🙂

  6. Summer, this is fantastic! I need to work on a lot of that stuff too, mainly my relationship with my man, my relationship with my God, and my relationship with my ideal. Good stuff.

    Let’s do it together. Hold my hand?

    ~ Jen

  7. Oh, Summer- what a post! Everyone could benefit if they work on your list with their own family I’m sure!

  8. This is why I love your blog!

  9. That sounds like an awesome plan. I’m sure y’all will make it happen. The best idea is to take a little at a time, just like you said, so you don’t get overwhelmed.

  10. Seriously Summ, you are totally inspiring me here!

  11. Love it. And I love finding blogs written by people with the same ideals as I have.

    Best of luck to you on your journey!

  12. I think it’s fabulous that you are doing all of this work for you, your husband and your family.

    I’ve been trying to do something similar but it’s hard to get started.

    You are an inspiration!

  13. What a great plan! I think its fabulous. And to recognize what needs attention, that’s the hardest part right?

  14. i love this!!! i want to make one of those 30 things before thirty lists…think you just inspired me to get ON IT LADY!!! and of course love you are centering it around Him!

  15. I heart you.

  16. Summer, what a great post! I think that is so key; to pin point some problem areas and figure out what needs to be done to fix them….and then DO it. Absolutely great.

    Let first things be first.

  17. You are a wonderful woman. You are bettering yourself and that is awesome! I admire you and adore you!

    I just realized I have been lazy and not updating my blogrolls! AHHH! You are now on it! Under creative inspiration!

  18. Beautiful post love! XOXO

  19. Awesome! In a sense, I have been doing the same thing myself. I wish you all the best!

  20. These are wonderful things to be working on, and I’ve gotta say that what I’m working on isn’t all that far off from what’s on your list. Marriage, kids, being CONTENT, intentionally inviting God into my life more, getting back to basics with the blog – just WRITING and being honest and not getting distracted by all the shiny stuff. 🙂 Because it IS therapeutic to me, and because I love the community – other people saying – hey, I’ve been there, too. And let me remind you, in case you’ve forgotten, that SO many things you’ve said have made me feel less alone in my struggles. Love you, girl!

  21. Hey fellow Sitsta, what a great entry to read on my first visit.

    I am a big fan of goal settings, and crossing things off my list. Though some of your items look like ones that will never be crossed off, in a good way, like devoting time to your loved ones and family.

    I’m working on my career right now, and hoping to make a big change soon.

  22. Way to make the rest of us look bad Summer. Thanks for that.

    Hahaha- I’m totally kidding. But I was reading all the other comments and just had to go against the grain.

    But for reals- awesome. Please keep us updated.

  23. You know what?

    You inspire me.

    Plain and simple.

  24. Good luck, those are all fabulous goals. You can do it!

  25. Ya know little lady…I just adore you. You are so open and honest and REAL and I find myself getting lost in your old posts ehem stalking/reading and I am so inspired by your journey.

  26. Oh, Summer, I love you. You make me laugh, make me cry, and encourage me to be a better person. I am and need to be working on several of these same things right now. Thank you for your honesty that keeps pushing me in the right direction!

    You are a great writer and an inspriation to all of us!

  27. I love you, Summer. No, seriously. Not in a weird girl crush kind of way either. I really do love you. You’re like a little piece inside of me. You say what I’m feeling – so often we’re on the same track and it’s just nice to see someone else working through the same garbage I am. We’re like twins – like the movie? Only you’re like Ahnold and I’m more Danny DiVito. *wink* I actually have a post coming up next week pretty much in this same vein. Now I’m going to have to edit and throw a shout out to my homegirl, yo.

    Don’t be scared, I won’t stalk you. 😉

  28. yeah girl! blog it! write it out! this is SO what i’m going through. it’s been about a 4 1/2 year journey so far. and i don’t know exactly when this happened, but when i realized there is no *finish* to this game, no *end* to this good struggle, it was such a relief. it’s a way of living for me. now… why is it that finding time to write int he midst of it all is so hard for me?! teach me your ways!!! and THANK YOU for this one. it might just be my favorite so far.
    – muah!