we are so much more

Do you ever feel that you’ve lost yourself? You’ve lost the person that you were before you had kids? That those dreams and hopes and hobbies are kind of pushed to the side. Or to the back, or that they’ve disappeared?

Why does that happen?

It’s not good. Not good at all.

I believe our children need to see that we are people too. They need to see that we have dreams, and they especially need to see that we are taking steps to make those dreams come true.

If we can do and be that in front of our kids, then I believe it teaches them to do the same in their own lives.

We can only be martyrs for an hour a day (I mean, let’s be realistic here), but then we have to get off our butts and be who we were created to be. And we need to do so without GUILT.

It’s good for us, for our hearts, minds and souls. And it will only serve to better our friendships, our marriage, our children and our self esteem.

Yes, I’m a mom, but I am so much more.

And so are you.

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Comments

  1. I sooo needed to hear this!

    Thanks Mama!

  2. Oh, Summer – this is why I love you so. 🙂 I DO miss so, so many things I used to do. And I STILL struggle with the guilt. I think this is a post I’ll need to keep coming back to and reading over and over, just to get the important message through my thick skull. Lovely post – so true…

  3. Sing it sister!! I couldnt agree more. Sometimes it’s great to know that others feel the same way though.

  4. We are more! I do feel like I am pulled in so many directions. We need to do what we feel we are good at as well as the Mamma and Grandma(me) thing.

  5. Great post and so true. I have been feeling similar as of late. I have a doozy of a post coming up though.

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  7. I love your post! And how right you are. Thanks for the reminder. It is greatly appreciated

  8. this is such wonderful advice. i think it is important to, at the VERY least, try to keep a toe (or two) in the water while raising kids… they grow up very, very quickly, and suddenly, you find yourself less needed and with more time on your hands, and if you gave it all up, and sunk everything you had into your kids, there’s nothing left for you. good post, smart girl!

  9. i am not yet a mother or a wife…but i have friends that are and i am definitely going to share this post with them 🙂

  10. You can do it all, sister. And you ARE doing it all.

    And QUITE well, I might add.

    This was a great tribute Summer…thanks for participating…

    And I cant tell you how excited I am to do my next “Blogversation”!!!

  11. I feel the same way. Sometimes I feel like I’m losing myself. The old me is no longer in existence and was replaced by ‘mom’. I struggle every day with finding a balance and usually I lose. After all, when it comes down to it, usually my needs come last. And it’s sad.
    But I still try and hopefully once the twins get a little older I’ll find my own path again.
    Thanks for this post. Good to hear I’m not alone.

  12. I like it! You are so right! Our kids do need to see this! I remember at one time pretty soon after I had had my first daughter, I could tell that “I” was gone…I just thought, how stupid, and I found her and brought her back!

  13. I totally miss the old me… thanks for remonding me that, I’m still in there.. somewhere…

  14. I have wondered for the past several years where the old me went. Don’t get me wrong, I love being a mother and would change nothing about that. I usually do wonder though where it all changed. I have tried here and there to bring a little of the old me back, but it is harder than it seems.

  15. This is so true!! What a great reminder for all of us. Thank you!

  16. Amen. So many women get lost in parenthood and forget that before their children they were a whole person.

    (Stop by my place when you get a second.)

  17. Now that the kids are gone, I’m starting to find my way back to me but I have a long way to go.

    Happy St. Patty’s day, Summer!

  18. It’s easier to feel more like yourself as your kids grow older.

  19. What a great post Summer. I think you are writing the things that many, many women are thinking and really do need to hear someone say/write. It is very touching! Obviously, I am not yet a wife or mother but I could even relate to what you were saying. It is so easy to get lost. I will for sure be sharing this link with my sisters =).

  20. lovely post summer! i think all the mommies out there need to here this. after Noah’s fever and whooping cough last night and they congestion all day i am QUITE ready for some ME time. tomorrow morning I am hittin the gym – GUILT FREE!

  21. Amen, Sister. Amen.

  22. you hit the nail on the head there!