I can’t tell you how much better I feel now that I have been honest about not being perfect.
It’s a huge weight lifted off my shoulders.
It was a tough role to pull off, that perfection thing, and as great as I am at being an actress (send those scripts my way!), this was one gig I had to let go.
While it’s great to always strive towards being better, I would dare to say, it’s a good thing nobody ever achieves perfection while living.
Perfection just isn’t relatable. Normal, whatever “normal” is, isn’t that what we love in others anyway? We love the humanness, the honesty, the vulnerability…
As much as I hated going through the hard times in my life, at least it has brought me to where I am. Because you see, now I can relate to others in regards to bad decisions, heartbreak, regret, death, losing loved ones, marriage, childbirth, postpartum depression, motherhood, anxiety…(or actually, just look at my blog topics to the right…that pretty much sums it up!)
In going through all of my ups and downs, I have gained insight, if not at least a story to tell. And as a writer, that’s a good thing to have.
I was thinking about this the other day when Jimmy and I were fighting about the whole “embracing my role as a stay at home mother” thing (again). I hated the fight, but you know what? I felt like I got some good writing out of it. And, through my writing and in sharing it, I found that I wasn’t alone.
So, without our struggles, how would we ever relate? And if we could never relate, who would ever want to be our friend?
But there is another side to this, in my opinion, and it’s that we can’t be strugglers all the time either. Because then it’s just as annoying as those who are pretending to be “perfect” or who think they have it all together. Negative Nelly and Debbie Downer are NOT names I want associated with myself. I want to be relatable, but not too relatable.
My motto? Have the moment, be honest with others about it, and then buck up and “move through it,” as my friends Shelby says.
When I think of the people in my life I look up to, the ones I admire..they aren’t perfect.
They’re human.
Real.
“Normal.”
Perfection really is overrated.
© 2009 “Le Musings of Moi”
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Perfection is a heavy load. It’s been hard to stay perfect all these years. {*grin*}
Perfection is impossible and who wants it anyhow? Perfection is boring.
Cool…and very true 🙂
Great post Summer. You really are a good writer.
I like you just the way you are.
I agree. Wholeheartedly.
And I love your motto.
Great post Summer and I couldn’t agree more.
May I join the “I’m Not Perfect After All” club? I think I would feel a whole lot better.
This is my favorite part of your whole post.
“My motto? Have the moment, be honest with others about it, and then buck up and “move through it,” as my friends Shelby says.”
I think I definitely need to remember this. It’s so true and sometimes I just get caught up in the negative aspects of things when I really shouldn’t. You did it again – another amazingly written post that is so, so true.
I agree – perfection is not only unobtainable, but it’s exhausting to try to obtain.
Not that I’d ever want to be complacent, or have no goals/ambitions. But I have learned that I can’t be everything to everyone – not even to myself sometimes!
All I can do is all I can do – the rest I leave up to God and His grace!
Great post! I think women put too much pressure on themselves, to be the perfect mom, the perfect wife, the perfect friend, etc. And in doing so we forget to take care of ourselves.
You speak the truth, there is no such thing as perfection it is as simple as that.
Here by way of Mama’s Losin’ It. Love the Post. Perfection is way over rated. I have a license plate that say next time you think your perfect try walking on water:)
I let go of perfection a long time ago!
Perfection is not normal.
Great post! I need to remind myself of this sometimes. Thanks for stopping by my blog – you are too cute!
There are so many things I would like to be perfect…but I don’t have the energy. Being normal is way more fun than being perfect!
So being perfect isn’t normal? 😉
I’ve had a really hard time with your past couple posts because I really am perfect.
I hope my perfectly perfect perfectness doesn’t get in the way of our blossoming romance…
I have many different emotions running through my mind as I read this post. Although my perfect image of you is shattered, I feel that I can recover. Maybe we can just focus on being normal friends, rather than perfect friends.
However, if anyone asks, we’re about as close to perfection as one can humanly get. 🙂
-Francesca
that was just great. thank you, that was a PERFECT read! =)