The one that got away….
Oh, in my story there are many. I was never a long timer in relationships. I think my longest was a year, and whew, that seemed like an eternity. I always tease Jimmy that he is my longest relationship.
I have the story that I think most girls have.
I’ve definitely had my heart broken. I’ve been hurt, lied to, misunderstood, unforgiven, broken up with for no reason, strung along…even cheated on by two different guys who I honestly never would have thought would hurt me that way.
But of course, not being perfect, I’ve broken a few hearts as well. Mostly because I was immature and not sure what it was I wanted or needed.
I was talking to one of my best friends about this whole “what if” thing….thanks to Jason (The Bachelor). And you know, after all is said and done, we came to the conclusion that the one who got away, is exactly that. Away. And most likely for a reason. Of course, and let me be clear, that reason is most certainly not me! Oh no, it’s so so him. He (and I use that in the plural form) is not in my life because he wasn’t the “one.”
The “one” will fight for you. He won’t let you go no matter what. He will cherish the sweet and thoughtful things you say and do. He will be honest with you. He will treat you better than you even think you deserve. He will love you despite your flaws, and he will forgive you for your many mistakes. He will laugh when you laugh, and he will wipe your tears when you cry. When things are really hard, he’ll be right there next to you, because he loves you. He will see you in the morning and hold your hair when you throw up. And he will still think you are the hottest thing he’s ever seen. Through the good and the bad, and even the really really bad….he won’t ever even think of leaving you. Even when you tell him you never want to cook him meals for dinner.
That “one” is the one that stays. That’s the one you keep. That’s the one that will never get away. And that’s how you are able to let the past be the past, and thank God every day for the “present” he’s given you.
© 2009 “Le Musings of Moi”
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I really like your take on this. It is a nice way to think.
Oh and I never dated long either. i only dated 2 people for 6 months of more (barely more) and I married both of them. The first lasted 8 yrs and the second is almost 6. Dating is overrated, lol.
Aw, how sweet! I hope Jimmy reads this and takes you OUT for dinner!
I heart this post more than all others. Because all of it is so true. (And this is the part where I stare deeply into nothingness and think really hard…)
I always liked my mothers explanation. She said there were many people you could love in your life, but the one you did love and spent your life with was the one that was in love with you and you were in love with them and you both were ready for the commitment.
Always made sense to me.
And he’ll tell you that you’re skinny. 😉
Ahhh the one that got away…
for me… he is still unmarried (for a reason) and has no children (for a reason) and isn’t with me
(for a reason)! So glad he got away!
That is really good. I’m happy for you. And secretly wondering when it will be my turn.
I am right there with you hun!
this was a good one… REALLY well written and quite sweet. although, i suspect you may just be kissing up to jimmy because of the whole unappealing idea of compromising!
I think I will print this out and give it to my 18 year old daughter. It is perfect.
That is so true! I couldn’t think of ONE that I would take back!
I’m so glad I found The One!
Have a great day!
That is so true about the “one”!
I wandered over via Mr.Linky on Mama Kat’s blog.
AMEN Sista!
So true. Wouldn’t it be nice to really know that when some guy breaks your heart.
Truer words were never spoken. Well said. And I find they are absolutely true pour moi, aussi!
Awesome. You are right on the money. You caught yourself a good man. 🙂 And you two make some pretty darn cute kids, too.
Stopping by from Mama Kat’s.
Honestly, I don’t have a “one who got away”.
My relationship with my husband is the only real one I’ve had, and I’m not even sure he’s “the one”.
Nice stroy, though 🙂
I am a romantic–so I loved this post. Plus I have that guy so I completely agree!
Psst, wanted to say I like your new blog look!
I couldn’t ahve said it better myself.
That is just the sweetest way of looking at things. You’re making me look bad here.
awww beautiful!
Great post!! Love where you went with this!
I was a a chain dater (you know like a chain smoker…okay not a good analogy). I dated a lot, but nothing ever serious or physical. The two guys I did date serious I married. Not at the same time, of course.
What I found has made my current marriage work was that I really like this guy and he really likes me. A person can love someone but not like them. I think that is why in the past my relationships were very short. I really didn’t like the guys or them me.
Great post!
Loved this!
This is a wonderful post. So true and a pleasure to read. You’ve put such a positive spin on this prompt… I love it. Well done.
This is so sweet! Your hubby is a lucky man!
This was a great post. It made sense I’ve been looking for.
So true!!
I love this! I think it’s so important to remember, too, especially with the up and down everyday stuff when it gets hard to appreciate the one who did stay. The one who fought for you.
I really like the way you did this! And you write so well!
I am definitely married to the “one” but I pushed away plenty of men who were fabulous just because I could. I don’t spend time thinking of them but a part of me does wonder “what if?”
Amen to this. I find myself getting stuck in “what-if’s” sometimes, but then I remember what a great guy I *didn’t* let get away!