The other day it came to my attention that there was a website with a specific link dedicated to hatin’ on me.
What started as a specific post to make fun of my home and design choices….ended up being a personal attack on not only myself…but my husband and my kids.
Oh no they di’int.
{not giving the link, they don’t deserve the traffic…although i should thank them for sending me some.}
Okay, so to be honest, I totally get that.
I mean, I don’t get wasting time bashing someone and their family, but I get that my home design style isn’t for everyone.
I get it, because, my word!, come a couple months, it may not even be for me anymore!!!
{how happy they will be when that day comes….}
But what really got me was when the comments went from picking on my home to attacking me, my kids, and my husband personally.
That is just purely low and mean, and really…
heartless.
{come here sad people, tell me, who hurt you to make you this way?}
While I sat there reading comment after spiteful comment, I began to feel my body go numb.
And before I knew what was happening, I couldn’t seem to stop the tears that were determined to spill down my face.
My heart literally ached.
I knew cutting comments from loved ones hurt, but I had no idea the sting from strangers quite like this.
I don’t know these people, they certainly don’t know me, so I shouldn’t have spent even a moment wasted on them.
But, waste I did, because I’m human…
one with, apparently, very thin skin.
But after a bit of time & a TON of support from my family and friends…not to mention the hilarious and touching comments from my facebook crew, I began to feel somewhat better and was able to begin processing through the situation with a bit more clarity.
{and wine….and chocolate cake…and glee…and the office. cheap therapy}
Of course my initial reaction was to shut it all down. Close up shop, stop sharing my life and heart, and instead stay close to the ones I love and trust.
But who wins then?
My sweet friend, Gillian, sent me a text later in the night that said:
…on your blog you wrote that you didn’t care if you never made any money for what you wrote, you just wanted to make a difference. I want you to know that you have made a difference in MY life…
And while really SHE’S the amazing one in our friendship, it meant a lot that she took a sec to remind me of my purpose here, and why I initially and continue to make my life an open book.
It’s NOT to be loved by all.
It’s not in hopes of becoming famous, or to be known, or even to make money.
It’s simply to share my journey in hopes that someone, even just one person, doesn’t feel so alone in theirs.
I don’t pretend to know it all.
I don’t think I’m the best at anything.
And I definitely don’t take myself too seriously.
{unless, of course, i’m being serious.}
It bums me out that there are people like that out there….
and it sucks that this little tiny episode of mine is barely the tip of the iceberg when it comes to what other people have encountered and been through.
But, I won’t let them win.
I won’t let them steal my intentions or my heart or my love for writing…
and I definitely won’t give them the satisfaction of caring any longer.
In the words of jill scott…
hate on me hater
now or later…
cause i’m gonna do me.
Oh girl.
Sing it girl.
mmm mmm mmmm.
snap.
snap.
snap.
snap.
Now, let’s move on.
ps
for anyone else who has something to say about the grammatical error of the name of my blog…
you should know that i don’t speak french,
and I came up with the name after i took an ambien…
and it really did seem like a great idea at the time!
2 years later it’s a little too late to change it.
now really….
let’s move on!
© 2011 “Le Musings of Moi”
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OH NO THEY DIDN’T!!!
THat is terrible, and I hate to say that I know how you feel…though they didn’t attack my family and it was just me, it was just as painful. I tried to take it as a compliment. Someone who hates me that much must not have anything else going on it their lives.
Just so you know, I think your ideas are great, and though I haven’t been around much (trying to change that) I think whoever did this to you is a small, small person.
So happy to hear that you’re feeling better today. I can’t imagine what the hatin’ operation was . . . a blog that just makes fun of other blogs? . . . but when my students are mean to each other, I always say, “Clearly you are uncomfortable with yourself if you feel the need to be so mean to someone else.” You know all this–but it doesn’t mean that it doesn’t hurt when you have to see hateful words.
I love reading your blog, I am glad it’s here, and I am thankful that you share your journeys with us. Keep that chin up!
if you’re well-known enough to be hated on by a few very unkind people that just goes to show you how very very loved you are by soooo many more. don’t you spend one tiny little second more thinking about it cuz you rock sista. xoxoxoxo
This is killing me. I am dying to know who this person is and then tear them a new one. Mostly, I feel so sad for them. What a waste of a life. I LOVE you & you know that i think you’re my sister from another mister! xoxo
dont you dare shut down your blog!! the only reason they are even hating on you is that they are jealous!!! plain & simple… you are amazing! a great person, who cares what others think!!! xoxo
A big PPPFFFTTTTHHHHH (imagine me sticking my tongue out) to those haters!
I really, really, really don’t understand people.
I {HEART} your blog, and love your designs, and adore you!
YOU are awesome!
THEY just wish they were awesome too!
I just found your blog a couple of weeks ago, and I really enjoy it. It’s a blog. No one is forced to read it, and it is so lame for someone to take the time to hate on someone else. Hating on someone else’s family–that’s crossing the line.
As much as we try to ignore it, and we know they’re not worth our time, it hurts. My feelings were hurt recently by something someone said to me, and I came to the realization that it was their problem, not mine.
Keep up the good work!
sweet summer…. i love your blog. Dont you ever stop sharing. You make a difference in my life even if i dont know you personally; your words resonate and touch women the world over.
How could someone hate on you? You are the nicest, sweetest, kindest person I have never know.
I love your taste in design and fashion.
You are inspiring.
Those hater’s need to be shut down. Let me at them.
I have just started reading your blog.
It is amazing!
shame on those people to trash you. Nobody has a right to bring you down, so don’t let them.
You seem like an insightful and incredible woman! Your blog is voice of many woman out there who need to know we all feel the same way.
Stay strong sister!
Summer,
I saw the comments and you can tell that they aren’t based on anything substantial. It’s jealousy. Someone once told me that you know you’re doing something right when people start talking about it! So keep up the great work. Turn that negativity into something positive…fuel to keep doing what you are doing. Keep up the blogs give them more to talk about… YOU ARE AWESOME!!
Summer, you’re awesome! I love reading your blog. I really appreciate your honesty. Keep up the great work.
There will always be sad people like that. You took the high road and those that read your blog and appreciate it are better off for it. Thank you Summer!
I had a nasty comment last year that sent me in a tizzy for an entire weekend…they called me a bad mom and wife, etc….looking back, they don’t really know me and I know the stuff they said wasn’t true.
This stuff sucks, but it isn’t true, screw em’, I say!
When it comes down to it, I let them think what they want. If they care enough to bother with what I do, then I’m already better than them. -Marilyn Monroe
It is so easy to let others make us question our worth, integrity and actions, but please know that you have touched so many with your words. I WOULD NOT have made it through the 30 day TAM without your blog and stories. Thank you. Thank you for sharing your life, experiences and (of course) fashion with us. You are FIERCE – don’t forget it and don’t let others make you question it. xx
Some people are just unhappy and can’t be happy for others. I can’t imagine being this type of person, but they do exist. The best you can do is keep on being yourself and not try to give those sad people another thought!
Really? REALLY????
There are adults out there with so much hate in their heart to literally spend precious minutes of their day writing hateful things about someone they don’t even know???
I pity them. It’s sad they have no joy in their life that they have to fill their day with hate. I am glad you didn’t close up shop. I found your blog a few months ago and absolutely love it. I simply adore seeing your vlogs, I think you are cute as a button, and your sentimental posts touch my heart. I know it hurts to see that, but know you are bringing a whole lot more people joy than what that hateful person can ever wish to have.
A little antidote I tell my daughter “A sunny disposition will always attract sun worshipers, but it will also attract angry clouds….Always remember, there are far more sun worshipers rallying for the sun to chase the clouds away”
<3 And Happy Valentine's Day!
Sums. Your beautiful amazing funny smart an amazing mom wife friend sister blogger designer mentor role model etc. Etc. ….. The ones who pick others apart are the ones who can’t stand them selves! they r the women who crave gossip and honestly probably have no friends in the real world so they think being an internet bully/ gossiper will make them cool *** News flash bitches grow up this is not high school now go take care of your children or husbands*** love you sister! <3