how I knew he was the one

I wrote the following post quite awhile ago, but since tomorrow is our 6 year wedding anniversary, I thought it was a good time to revisit the moment I knew he was the one…
The first time I met Jimmy I knew he was something special and something different. Even though at the time I was dating somebody else, getting to know Jimmy made me realize the one I was with wasn’t the right guy. I didn’t ever think I would date Jimmy, but I knew I wanted to find a guy just like him.
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A month before we met, my dad died suddenly from a heart attack and I was going through the awful bit and pieces of his life which was more of a mess than I knew. Not only was I dealing with the trauma of losing my dad, but I had to go through the emotional baggage of my dad’s life. It was a load of crap, and I felt so overwhelmed. While my family had each other up in my home state, I was down here thousands of miles away to deal and heal without the shelter of my sisters.
I had a ton of friends that did their best to be there for me, and I am ever so thankful I had them during that time. But, what really stands out to me, is the love and support of Jimmy. He was exactly what I needed during that time. He allowed me to be me. He let me cry when I felt like crying, he let me laugh when I needed to laugh, and he let me be quiet when I needed to be quiet. He never burdened me with questions or advice, he was just there.
We were just friends, and at that point I had never considered dating him. He was “off limits” so I only saw him as this amazing guy who would only ever be my friend. This was good though, because I felt comfortable. I didn’t need to impress him. I could burp, put my gum under the table, cry, or pick my nose…stuff I’m sure he just loved about me now that we look back. 😉
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Anyway, one night I had enough. There were more devastating details coming out about people my dad had known, and I felt like I was going to crack. I took off and found this spot on the beach, along the cliffs, and sat there for hours crying. I was totally alone and I was just letting the tears and sobs go. After awhile though I noticed someone was there with me. I turned and saw Jimmy walking towards me. He had called my roommate and asked where I was, and then set out to find me.
I looked awful. I had puffy eyes, mascara down my face, and I had no voice…no words, no smile, no laughter. I had nothing to give him. So I just turned away. He quietly sat down next to me and took off his sweatshirt and helped me put it on. Then he sat there with one arm around me, and said nothing. We spent another hour there while I continued to sob away, and not one word was shared. But his support, his presence, his patience and understanding….it was just what I needed to start to heal.
And it was that night, that moment that I knew. Without ever having dated, kissed or held hands, I knew. It was the first time I knew HE was the guy I was going to marry.
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It is now six years and two kids later, and I am still so thankful for him. In fact, I am more in love with him now than the day we got married. And every year it continues to grow. Through all the ups and downs, my love grows.
All those ex’s of the past were worth every heartache and pain because it led me to him. I would never have been able to appreciate the guy that he is, had I not kissed a few “toads” along the way.
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Now, it’s been a rough four weeks with the adjustment of the baby in the house, and I can’t say either one of us has been the most fun to be around. (well, especially him. I’m a saint, don’t ya know?) But, going back to the beginning, of what brought us together is always a great memory and reminder. He is still that guy, he still has that heart, and he loves me so much better than I deserve.
So, all that to say, I forgive the grumpy man who hasn’t been much fun to be around when he doesn’t get his full 8 hours of sleep. And I love you more than I can ever explain.
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Comments

  1. Aw, what a great post! Makes me appreciate my big lug, too 🙂

  2. Congrats on your 6th year anniversary. What a wonderful love story. Great pictures. Dig your red wig and Jimmy’s boa. Take care.
    -Kiki

  3. Hi! I don’t believe i’ve commented on your blog before but i’ve been reading you for a lil bit. Wanted to say hello 🙂

    This story was very sweet and touching. Your husband sounds like a great man. Sometimes someone is put in our lives and we’re not quite sure the purpose at first. I think I was that person for my husband when we first met, although we didn’t know it at first either. Congrats on 6 years! I can’t wait till we hit that mark ourselves.

  4. Awww, so sweet! Great story!

  5. i love this story. i love your honesty and the love that ou two share!
    Congratulations!

  6. Happy 6 years, Summer! This is such a sweet story, and he really does seem like quite a catch. Plus, you guys make totally cute babies. 🙂

  7. thanks for stopping by my blog! loved your comment!!
    i tagged you in a meme….as a way to say thanks and to send people over to you!

    🙂

  8. Wow, congratulations on your 6 year anniversary!

    This is a lovely story.

    LBM xxx

  9. Congratulations. Happy number six and many more to follow!

  10. Sounds like he is quite the catch! congratulations on six lovely years!

  11. It is a very rare thing that the two of you have. I wished more people would be this fortunate in life. I am fortunate in that I knew my Hubby was the one too. And for every one of the 34 years we have been together, my love grows more and more each day! HE IS MY ROCK!

  12. I love this, so beautiful.

    And happy anniversary!

  13. Congrats, congrats. What a beautiful love story~hope you have a wonderful anniversary trip–

    Blessings!

  14. I got chills and was fighting back the tears when he was walking up to you on the cliff. I’ve been where you were (almost exactly same kind of death of my dad). I’m so happy you have found the love of your life.

  15. AAAAWWWWWW! This was precious. You two are so perfect together! Happy 6th anniversary!!!

  16. Summer, it made me shed a couple of tears, tears of joy. Congratulations and happy anniversary!!!

  17. Oh, I love your story!
    Happy Anniversary!

  18. Oh, I love your story!
    Happy Anniversary!

  19. Amazing story! Really 🙂

  20. Keeping in the spirit of the “Everybody Loves Jimmy” posts… I think you should write about the wedding day and share some pics!

  21. i feel all mushy inside now….
    really nice love story, hun!
    xxx

  22. wow. your story is much like mine with my hubby. we were bff for over 2 years before we started dating. he was there through it all…even when i hit rock bottom. it’s wonderful to have that “foundation” for when times get tough. i’m so glad you found ‘him’!! what a great guy 🙂

  23. this was such a great post, and yess im dying to follow you 🙂

    I have a boyfriend of three years which is the TOTAL complete opposite of me in many many ways. Many people would not even approve of our opposites.. we love eachother nonetheless and we have the best relationship. I never got a long with someone so well.. You post made me thing of the first moments I got to know my special guy. I’m glad you both are deeply in love as it should be. He was like a guardian angel you know that! saying nothing, just being there… thats what love really truly is… speechless and undescribable.

    xox One Love for all.