I should tell Jimmy to send Malia a thank you note.
Because what was once the sister who locked me outside in the rain, is now the sister with the deep thoughts and solid advice. I think releasing your anger in childhood does something for your sense of peace as an adult. I should have learned from her….
Anyway, we’ve talked a lot about my issues in being a housewife. We have similar personalities in that we are both strong and independent. We are women, hear us roar.
But, in having the advantage of being on the outside of my marriage, she read my blog and then decided that I really needed her advice. (she’s right, I always do.)
Then she spoke of some word she called, “compromise.” Compromise? What is this “compromise” that she speaks of? It sounded like another language to me. Huh?
So, she tried her best to give me some examples of how that might work out, and some of them actually sounded quite manageable. See, she suggested. First she validated my feelings, agreed that of course I’m right, but then she suggested some ideas. She’s good. Jimmy should take some notes.
And so, Jimmy and I are scheduling a “meeting” this upcoming weekend to discuss the roles and responsibilities of our home. We’ll be picking and choosing and discussing. Oh yes, it will be so fun. And though, I will NEVER be the kind that cooks every night…there might be a thing called compromise happening.
So, thanks Malia. Without your deep thoughts, where would we be?
You may very well have saved our marriage.
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We’ve been having some of those meetings as well. Compromise – such a tough thing, but! It’s what makes it work, right? I’ll be looking forward to finding out how the meeting goes and what Jimmy will be doing. 🙂
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Ha! I might have to try this thing you call “compromise,” it sounds interesting… and maybe even feasible… Also, I don’t have any sisters, can I borrow yours the next time Mikey and I have a feud? Pretty please? 🙂
Super sweet. I always wonder what it’d be like to have a sister. Or normal siblings for that matter. lol!
Yep, we tried that…only my list ended up needing binding and a cover, and hers is still on the original stickie note.
Sigh.
HI Summer!!! I read your blogs daily…..I love them !! I just want to encourage you, being a stay at home is tough and only the tough ones can do it. You don’t HAVE to do it all. Somedays you will be a better cleaner and somedays you will find that you have more patience with the kids. It all flucuates as everything does in life and life itself does as well. One thing I learned now that the kids are grown is, THEY WON’T REMEMBER THE HOMEMADE COOKIES YOU MADE!!!”. So what is my point? Don’t kill yourself doing things just to say to yourself and to your friends, hey, I do this and I do that (trying to keep up with the Jones thing…). Love them, pray for them, love your husband, be happy, be kind, be forgiving, be funny….these things they will remember. I love you Summer you ARE awesome.
Love always, Rochelle
she sounds like a pretty awesome sis!
i love the new blog look 🙂
Actually, compromise is a great thing. It isn’t fair for any one person to have thier needs and desires ignored. With compromise, you sometimes have to give what you don’t feel like but in return you get what you want. 🙂 And really, every one just wants to be happy. Right?
My husband and I are pretty good at compromising. It seems the easiest when we each try to see things from the other person’s point of view. Then we try to make it work for the other person. If each partner does this, it really helps.
Have fun!
Moms need to stop trying to be Supermom (I say this with my hands on my hips, chest puffed out and the big S on my chest). What kids remember is the quality time that you spend with them. My mom was always a working mom but is still my best friend. She was always there to listen, even if it was over the phone while she was working. She was always there for my sports practices/games, always there for what mattered. The hardest thing about being a sahm is the lack of adult interaction, and it’s something I still struggle with sometimes…but I wouldn’t trade my time with my girls.
Ahhh compromise. I thought surely after three years we would have our roles completely solid, but it is still a work in progress!
Aww Summer. I am glad that your sister was able to give some advice. I think it is hard to accept advice about something like marriage. It is something that is so personal and different for everyone. I got married when I was 18 and Still. In. High. School. Let me tell you we have come a long way and learned a ton. Now we are looking at a total 180 in life. Had we not have been through all the rough patches prior to this, I dont know that I would be strong enough for it. I came close to becoming a widow at the age of 20, and I guess since then it has been a constant reminder that life is precious and not without fights. Good luck with the meeting! Sorry for the novel…
Sisters are the best. I’m glad yours was able to help with some much needed advice.
Did you already tell us the blogversation topic for this week? I might get in on the action if I can manage!
I always wanted a sister, instead I got three rough’n’tough brothers. Oh well!
Sounds like your sister is awesome. “Compromise” can be hard to do and even harder to see when you need to do it. I think that might be my issue right now.
Good luck with your meeting!
Don’t ya just love scheduling meetings with your husband. Not my favorite. BUT what I am really here to say is that I finally got to watch last weeks blogversation and LOVED all of them. Too bad I don’t have kids because I probably would have joined in (answers from my husband would not be quite as cute). Can’t wait till next week!
can you send malia over here now? i do like the idea of compromise… but does that mean that it has to be 50/50? i MIGHT be able to swing 80/20 (with him moving 80 % in MY direction and me moving the 20%). seems reasonable, no?